Getting Flewed Out
A few weeks ago, getting flewed out was a hot topic on social media. Videos of Flewed out gone wrong went viral, men putting on blast women they Flewed in for the purpose of sex after these women refuse to indulge them.
One woman was left stranded at an airport because the guy cancelled the return ticket and she didn’t have enough money to go back home. Some were being thrown out of hotel rooms or cars. It definitely had people talking.
It was also topic of conversation between my friends and I, so I decided to offer my two cents on the proper way to be flown out or Flewed out lol
Now let’s keep it real, the word “flew out” or “fly out” has a very icky vibe to it, when you hear of men talking about flying girls out, it’s usually for sexual purposes or when girls talk about getting flown out to exotic places to meet men, it gives off escort, sex worker, Jeffery Epstein vibes, So I can understand why some men automatically think flying a girl out = Sex.
But in some cases, it could be a man meeting girl or coming across a girl’s online profile that lives in another state or country and he really desires to get to know her. If he has the financial means to he can either fly to meet her or send for her after building a rapport with her by way of online communication or phone calls.
If you have listened to my podcast you know I am not a fan of meeting or having any sorts of interaction with men online in regards to a romantic matter.. I do not make myself available on social media in that manner.
So therefore the men that have ever requested my presence with them wether In an another state or country, have been men that I have met in person and have had some sort of rapport with prior to getting flewed out 😂😂😂( this word makes me laugh)
But for the sake of this topic let’s say I meet a man online that I had been chatting to for a a month or so.. and he requested my presence with him. Here are a few personal tips and strategies as to how I approach getting flown out.
Understand that flying out to anywhere to go meet anyone racks up quite an expense, so before you even accept any fly out invitation.. Vet, Vet Vet and Vet some more of his finances. Flying a woman out is a game only BIG MEN with BIG BANKS can afford to play in.. meeting a man online or a brokie that doesn’t have much and was able to scrape a couple of thousands together for your itinerary is definitely a man that will be looking for his ROI, so definitely make sure he has the funds to play.
2. make sure you actually know his name like full name, not just his social media handle or the Nick name his friends call him( have a an idea of who this guy is and what he does for a living)
You never want to be in a position where you fly halfway around the world or country to go meet a complete stranger.
3.) when the offer to Fly out comes, never be so eager or willing to accept, it doesn’t matter if he want to take you to the end of the world.. don’t so yes right away.. tell him you will think about it.. when he now asks you again or ask if you thought about his offer, mention how it’s not that easy for you to drop your work or business to go meet him.. unless he is willing to compensate you financially for those missed days( This is what I call a fly out fee, of course the fly out fee can vary based on individual’s lifestyle and how much you think you are worth)
4. Assuming the fly out fee has been agreed upon, because if it’s not the fly out conversation ends there and you go no where . But assuming it has and you have received your fly out fee, he can begin to plan your itinerary or he can send you the money to make your own reservations, I prefer to have the money sent so I can make my own itinerary but if he is insisting on taking care of it that’s also fine.
5. See and approve of all itinerary before it is finalized, make sure you are comfortable with the hotel and the location of the hotel you will be staying at and you see confirmations for a round trip ticket. The situation where one woman was stranded and didn’t have a way to get back, should have never happen if it’s a round trip ticket. Even if it does happen.. the man will be the one to lose out on his money because a round trip ticket with one part of the trip already taken is considered a non refundable ticket and some airlines even charge extra to cancel such tickets.
Or because you are dealing with a BIG MAN with a BIG BANK , he could fly you on a private plane which is fine.. but in case he refuses to organize the flight to take you back.. this is where the fly out fee comes in handy.. you should have just enough to get you back home.
6. Communicate communicate and communicate some more, as a woman when you are getting to know a man wether online, in person or a man you have never met before. Sexual innuendos or sexual like communications should never be anything you engage in. A man being sexually suggestive on the phone or you being sexually suggestive on the phone will suggest that when you guys do meet it’s going to be on and popping, so all your communication should really be about him wanting to get to know you more and Vice versa.. that way he knows that sex is not on the table when he sees you.
Say things like oh I can’t wait to get there, I have been wanting to try out this wonderful restaurant in that area or I heard they have indoor sking at this place I can’t wait to try it with you.
Let all your communications center around getting to know each other more or going out to this place and that place. If a man you have never met before or have never been sexual intimate with is always being sexually suggestive on the phone.. that his way of communicating that when he sees you he wants sex.. if that is the case, I would just cut the conversation, the man and the whole thing off, never imply or let the man imply you are going to do something you are not comfortable doing.
7. Safety!!! Let your close family members and friends know where you are going where you are staying and who you are going to meet.
8. My last tip is to show up looking your best and at your best.. do not be nervous there’s is nothing to be nervous about. This man you are to meet, has gone out of his way to give you a fly out fee, arrange all your itinerary so you can feel comfortable.. just show up looking good and ready to enjoy your self.
Now if at any point during the trip, he does get aggressive or starts going crazy like the little men with the little banks in those viral videos.. simply pack your things and go, you can stay at another hotel that he doesn’t know of or go back home.. remember you have already asked for a fly out fee.. so the conversation of oh am stranded I don’t have a place to sleep or a way to get bank home should never be a topic.. that’s exactly what that money is for.. it’s is your security and your safety net.
Besides I highly doubt that a man that has gone through lengths to make sure you come to him will flip a switch and cancel your flights and kick you out of the hotel all because you refuse to sleep with him.
Hence why you must only entertain BIG MEN with BIG BANKS.. because all they spend on you will be considered a piece of change to them.. and it is something they wouldn’t mind doing over and over and over again especially if they really really really like you and enjoy your company.
Hopefully my two cents in regard to this topic helps out.
Thank you for reading .
-xoxo
