Every Girl Needs A Daddy

Because daddies make life easier by being  a great financial resource, providing connections to advance in one’s  career or business, being a great support system, offer great life advice and lessons. However, Sugar daddies are business men, meaning they never give or do without expecting ROI. And like all business men, you have your honest, straight to the point ones, then you have your creepy sleezy slime ball dodgy shady ones.

I sometimes find it hard to believe when I hear the girlies talking about how they have this and that sugar daddy that  never expects anything in return.. am like mmmmmmm okay sis I believe you… sort of lol..

Don’t get me wrong I am a big!!!! believer in a man being generous with a woman without expecting ROI. Because I have experienced that a lot in my personal life.. men do for and give me things just cause.. but when terms such as daddy  or sugar daddy , boyfriend or my this and that start coming into play nine times out of ten there’s always sex involved or  it’s something the man will anticipate on happening soon.

A man that is aware that he is being seen as a sugar daddy or boyfriend will definitely want some sugar in return..  especially if it’s the slimy dodgy sleazy ones.. those ones are the worst.. they demand some sort of sexual activity first before they even go into their pockets.. those ones are just ewww!!!

With that being said.. how does a woman go about receiving financial favors or other favors from men, without putting out?

DO NOT DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP.

when you meet these rich men or these men that are financially well off to be a Daddy, make friends with them.. laugh, joke have a flirt or two. Of course they are going to ask you out and maybe you go on one or two of these dates.. but after that you keep them abay by not fully committing yourself to them. 

When they start making comments about having a sugar daddy arrangement or maybe even a relationship, respond by not giving them a direct answer by Saying mmmm I don’t know yet, I am  just starting to get to know you and I want to know more before I commit myself to you. Or by saying I do enjoy your company and I love our friendship ( Key word friendship) But let’s just see how things go.

By sometimes but not all the time taking these men on their offers to see you.. yet not defining or committing to a yes or no with them.. puts them in that friend zone.. a man that finds  a woman attractive and just so happen to be friend zoned  will forever be a man that will do and give just  because he wants the woman to say yes to him. Yes to an arrangement, yes to sex, yes to a relationship..  This is where the wooing begins.

A man that is wooing a woman and that woman hasn’t fully commit an answer to him.. will forever be a man on the hunt and chase for her.. that is of course if she hasn’t given up her P power yet. A woman that hasn’t given up her P Power to a man that wants her.. and she is also not defining their relationship in turn creates that friendship bond.

I once had a man say to me that he doesn’t know why but he always wants to be around me, I think he wants to be around me because he finds me attractive,  pleasant to talk to, he has asked me to be in a relationship, I didn’t give a definite answer and I certainly did not give up my power despite our many outings and he continues to stick around hoping that one day I will change my mind and be ready to take our “friendship” to the next level.

With this method I remain that “mystery girl” they can not crack. So When this “Mystery girl” calls and ask for favors?? They say yes.. yes I will give you this, yes I will do that for you… and In return I say omg thank you sooo much( In my baby voice) I don’t know what I would do without you or our friendship.

If you have listened to my podcast particularly the episode DYP+FWB+SS these are the men I call Baller friends..fiends that are rich that like me.. and because I haven’t given them a definite answer they do for me.. hoping I will change my mind.. sometimes I do sometimes I don’t.

Now the down side to this type of friendship is the favors cannnot be as consistent as it would be a sugar daddy it has to be here and there.. too much calling a man and asking him for this and that.. will peak his  ears and will start feeling like  he is being Used without getting ROI.

Also remember to be grateful when these friends do for you, because they don’t have to but when they do, be grateful and happy and they will also be happy that you are happy.

NO NEED FOR SUGAR TO BE GIVEN.

So while I do believe every girl needs a daddy.. but understanding what some of these “Daddy Arrangements” come with, It’s not something I can fully commit to regardless of the money and resources for the sake of my spiritual sanctity hence why I use the method I just described.

But if giving ROI is not a problem for you.. then by all means go ahead, just be wise, stay ten steps ahead, always have a goal in mind or a list of things he has to have given or done for you before you give it up and make sure these daddies do not leave you emotionally bankrupt.

Thank you for reading.

-xoxo